Sunday, June 28, 2009

Be Careful Little Mouth What You Say...

I have been reading book written for "boy moms" called "Preparing Him for the Other Woman". It is really a great book and has had some wonderful advice on how a mom can impact her son's life in a way that draws him to the Lord and also prepares him to be a wonderful husband someday. In the book she says that some times men have trouble when they are married because they just don't understand women and so we need to help our sons by teaching them all of the, yes admit girls, strange little things about women. Yesterday I had the perfect moment...

We got on to the golf cart for a family ride. I looked down and noticed that my toenails looked awful. So I said "Wow, mommy really needs to paint her toenails". To which Kaden replied "Why mommy"? I told him that girls like to have pretty toenails because girls like to look nice. I told him that someday when he got married he would have a wife who liked to look nice so that might mean he would have to be patient and wait on her to be ready to go somewhere. I was feeling like super mom until Kaden said...

"Does that mean we can be bad to each other"? "Bad to each other, what are you talking about," I said. " You know when I get married we can be bad to each other like you and daddy are bad to each other sometimes", Kaden said.

Yep, there it is...the dagger. Now, I do not want my boys to grow up thinking that marriage is a bed of roses but I do want to make sure that they don't see it as an excuse to be "bad" to someone. So I explained to Kaden that everyone has bad days and yes sometimes we are ugly to one another but we always need to remember to say sorry.

Wow...and I thought the teachable moment was just for Kaden!

2 comments:

Keri said...

I had one of those moments w/ Colton too recently. We talked about when he gets married, he is going to annoyed with his wife all the time. Ouch! They see and hear so much more than we give them credit for.

julie said...

Thanks for sharing that Jenna..a teaching moment for us all!